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Interracial Relationships | Cooking MATTERS

Push play to listen to the audio-blog I've always been a 💣💥BOMB💥💣 cook.  By my own record and my family's, I am probably one of the best cooks in my family. (Although my younger brother, Justin - The Professional Sous Chef - would beg to differ...) Nonetheless, I never thought I would EVER have a complaint about my cooking. And then I started dating black men... 👋 Hey Fam-lei 👋 Lady XO here! And THIS topic in relationships is almost NEVER spoken about in any blog I've read or podcast I have listened to. I want to FIRST say, NO...   This is NOT going to be a post about my recipes... (although if you'd like any, I'm all for exchanging some 👉 THIS is a post about compatibility and why cooking does matter when you're thinking of being in an interracial relationship. I explain... Cooking can be just as intimate of an expression of love as a hug can be at times. It's that warm feeling you get when som
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Nightime Revelations | Knowing Your Worth

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