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HWNL | A Wife’s Cry To God


She walks up to the front doors of the church, holding her son by the hand...


How much he looks like his daddy...  


It brings a tear to her eye...  


At the entrance, a  man welcomes them in with a smile and shows her through the door.  


A welcoming face with kind eyes...  


Oh, how he has no idea how much she needed to see that...


Because the piercing eyes that she just left at home were NOT kind...


and the turmoil in her heart just won’t leave...


The storm in her marriage is seemingly over for the moment...


(Enough groveling from the hours before, has subdued the heart of her husband enough to let her leave and allow him rest.)


But... she walked out of the doors of her home NOT knowing who the man laying in her bed even WAS anymore...


She walks up the isle to the front of the church pews...


A sign on the massive screen in front of her reads:


“When you stand UP for Jesus, you will be put to the test...”


How she knows that all to well...


She’s here with a mission...


She’s here to save her marriage and remember who she IS...


She’s ready...  


Ready for whatever God is calling...


She’s no longer certain her place is even by her husbands side and she has been praying for a sign that was clear...


She’s ready to leave...  

Ready to stay and fight...  

Whatever the Lord speaks and says...


Face plain, no makeup...  


She knew the tears she would shed would be rivers compared to the ones she shed at home...


But HERE...


All of that is unnecessary...


Because HERE...


She is the Daughter of a King...


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In her seat - she sways to the sound of the choir washing away all the pain...


Her heart begins tipping over...


The sounds of her cries to God fill a corner of the ambience in the room full of weeping people...


Hands in the air...


Her husbands name in her heart...


She screams “JESUS”


With a deep growl coming ONLY from a place of pain and UNBENDING FAITH that -


Simply calling this name...


Will HEAL everything that she; herself doesn’t even know to ask for...


She’s confused...  and in need of clarity.


WHAT.  DOES.  SHE.  DO???


GOD!!!


“What do I do???  Do I stay and fight?  Do I leave with the only dignity I have left?”


Questions consume her...


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All too often; we find ourselves in a position where we simply don’t have the answers...  


We feel like we are losing our minds because our seemingly steady life has had the roof blown off by some new emotional hurricane...


And we feel as though we have no control over the outcome...


But the REAL TRUTH is...


We do, in fact, have some control over the situation...


For we can control only our RESPONSE to our situations...


Understand this...


No boxer goes into a ring match without having practiced how to attack as well as defend themselves...


Since we are fighting a “spirit” and not a “person” during conflict with our significant others, we have to learn SPIRITUAL WARFARE as well as how to "take a punch"...  (metaphorically of course)


Remember first, this tidbit and I believe it will make things a bit easier to "bob and weave" through the emotional "punches".


And that tidbit is THIS:



HURT people hurt people...



Meaning that, when someone hurts you,(especially someone you love) they are ONLY fighting you (trying to hurt you with their words) because they feel HURT themselves...


Despite of whether or not YOU may believe their reasoning for being hurt in the first place was valid.  And you think you've done NOTHING wrong... THAT person (for whatever reason) is hurting...


And THAT fact; if you TRULY love someone unconditionally, should turn the "fight" around in a way where you are able to fight this spiritual war WITH your spouse to kill the enemy that is TRULY at the forefront.


Because the fight is NOT with your spouse but with the demon that is pummeling them with thoughts of the pain you (did or didn't) cause.


If you're gonna have to fight...  better to fight WITH your spouse than against them, right?


You can now come from a place where "Nobody messes with MY baby!" and you find yourself fighting alongside them instead.



Learn the art of spiritual warfare during relational disagreements in our next blog entitled, "ENTER NAME HERE" where we go into great detail about how to "WIN" your spiritual battles.


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